the view from here

Oct 30

Dear Reader,

Sometimes it takes time to see something clearly. We look back on an experience that once felt certain, and it no longer carries the same weight. What seemed clear in the moment has changed shape. What we thought we understood about ourselves, or someone else, begins to look different from a distance.

Perspective rarely arrives when we ask for it. It tends to appear quietly, after we’ve stopped trying to make sense of everything, when we’re simply living what’s in front of us. Only later do we notice that our view has widened, that we can hold more of the picture than before.

In the therapy room, this shift often happens in real time. Someone begins by describing something that feels stuck. Then, as they keep speaking, another understanding begins to form. Often it isn’t a “solution”. It’s more like realizing that what they believed was the whole story was only part of it.

Finding perspective is about allowing the story to expand until it can hold more than one truth at once. The hurt may still exist, but so does the learning. The loss still matters, but so does the way we keep showing up.

Sometimes we can’t see what something means until we’ve walked far enough to turn around. Other times, it takes slowing down within the moment itself to glimpse a different angle. Either way, perspective isn’t given; it’s gathered slowly, with attention, as we learn to keep looking until something shifts.

Yours in the journey,